April 23, 2010

me time = guilt

She's irresistable! And getting a real attitude lately..

So yesterday, I finally got a chance to have an evening out with a friend. It really was a day I needed, lunch with a friend who was telling me about his month long trip to Brazil with his wife and then supper and an evening out with another friend. Lots of laughs and a chance to just let loose and get rid of all the gloomy spirit I've been feeling. Plus, no mommy talk!

Here's the thing though. Those evenings out come with a price. I spend about an hour with the Keikster in the morning but once she's safely at school and I'm on my way to start my day.. that's about the total time I've spent with my kid. An hour. Out of the entire day. And I spend that hour basically running around getting her uniform ready, trying to get her a breakfast (that she'll eat), getting the car ready etc.

While I had a great evening and feel lighter, I also have a slight tinge of guilt because this morning I got to spend about 15 minutes with Keira before hurrying out to get to work. So I overcompensate by kissing & hugging her until she's grimacing and pushing me away, haha! Then you know I'm going to be buying her whatever she happened to whisper in my ear this morning before I had to leave ('psst, maaam, can you buy me a necklace with flowers on it?').. Dollar Store, here I come!

6 comments:

kribss said...

its hard finding the right balance but i feel that everyone needs some time for themselves. at least for me, i notice that i'm more patient and loving :)

{so i take it keira's room is going for a remodel? can't wait to see it!}

Chantale said...

Kristi: You're right but still.. Also, no not a remodel. Just a re-arranging of furniture. lol. S'going to be another post! : )

Audrey said...

A happy mama is important too. Don't feel too guilty...you need YOU time too. And the weekend is just around the corner...you can catch up with your kisses and hugs then.

nath said...

time for you is important, don't feel too guilty ;). Trouble is, us mums are built with a guilt button permanently switched on...

Tasha said...

The you-time you take for yourself increases the quality of the subsequent time you spend with her. Think of it as an investment into the rest of the time you spend with her.

Jisoo said...

I identify with you since I am a working mom too, but we all need to get away and have some fun away from the duties of motherhood so we can stay good mothers ;)